I’m Violet Fawkes, and my mission as a pleasure educator is to support your journey of sexual self-discovery. I create sex-positive resources to help you explore, empower, and enrich your life with practical information, wisdom and self-love.
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Be Curious, Creative & Courageous
There are five themes to help you navigate as you explore this site, and yourself: Being Sexy, Being Kinky, Being Playful, Being Intimate, and Being Whole. Each section is an ever-growing archive of information meant to support, inspire, and inform you.
Being Sexy
What does it mean to be sexy, and why do we care so much? If you want to explore beauty standards, body politics, and living your sexuality authentically, then you’re in the right place!
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Being Kinky
Curious about kink but don’t know where to start? Learn the lingo, get tips for safely navigating a scene, or find a helpful how-to guide. It’s all here for you to explore!
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Being Playful
Want to get serious about the fun side of sex? Dive into the world of sex toys and pleasure products to enrich and expand your definitions of pleasure.
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Being Intimate
No relationship is one-size-fits-all, but this is never more true than when Relationship Anarchy is at play. Learn more about the empowering ways people are expanding their connections and finding new ways to love.
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Being Whole
Isn’t it time you fell in love with yourself? Explore your relationship with yourself and your sexuality with self-affirming exercises, tips for self-advocacy and healing, and further resources for sexual health and wellness.
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I Designed A Dildo!
Since I began writing about sex and reviewing sex toys, nearly seven years ago, I have wanted to design a dildo to share with the world. Now, thanks to a collaboration with Freely Toys, my dildo designing dreams have come true!
Named for one of classic Hollywood’s favourite femme fatales, Harlow represents the intersection of sexual liberation and self-love. With curves in all the right places, the size and design are ideal for beginners and toy-savvy folks. It’s also harness compatible and will make pegging an exciting and sensual adventure. Harlow’s perfect proportions make it a great addition to any toy collection, and you can even customise your Harlow with three densities of silicone and over 20 vibrant colours.
Recent Posts
Quick Life Update!
Hey Friends -I just wanted to give you a heads up as...
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Which cums first, the feather or the chicken?
“Erotic is using a feather, kinky is using the whole chicken.” ...
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How To Discuss The Possibility Of A Threesome With Your Partner
This is a sponsored post by Erobella. As a sex+ platform, Erobella champions the welfare, autonomy, and security of sex workers by advocating for their acceptance and de-stigmatisation in society and politics, throughout Europe and beyond.
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Kinky Horoscopes for April
Horny? Grumpy? Out of sorts? Me too. Which planets shall we blame?
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Non-monogamy might be right for you if…
How, as a monogamous person, would one become aware that non-monogamy may be a viable choice? As with anything this personal and specific, experiences will vary. Non-monogamy might be right for you if…
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What is NRE?
NRE is that bubbly, excited feeling you get when you first start really connecting with someone. Often mistaken for a symptom of falling in love, this mega dose of delicious attraction and euphoria can be exciting, but also potentially wreak havoc on pre-existing relationships of all kinds.
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