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I’m Violet Fawkes, and my mission as a pleasure educator is to support your journey of sexual self-discovery. I create sex-positive resources to help you explore, empower, and enrich your life with practical information, wisdom and self-love.

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Be Curious, Creative & Courageous

There are five themes to help you navigate as you explore this site, and yourself: Being Sexy, Being Kinky, Being Playful, Being Intimate, and Being Whole. Each section is an ever-growing archive of information meant to support, inspire, and inform you.

Being Sexy

What does it mean to be sexy, and why do we care so much? If you want to explore beauty standards, body politics, and living your sexuality authentically, then you’re in the right place!
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Being Kinky

Curious about kink but don’t know where to start? Learn the lingo, get tips for safely navigating a scene, or find a helpful how-to guide. It’s all here for you to explore!
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Being Playful

Want to get serious about the fun side of sex? Dive into the world of sex toys and pleasure products to enrich and expand your definitions of pleasure.
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Being Intimate

No relationship is one-size-fits-all, but this is never more true than when Relationship Anarchy is at play. Learn more about the empowering ways people are expanding their connections and finding new ways to love.
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Being Whole

Isn’t it time you fell in love with yourself? Explore your relationship with yourself and your sexuality with self-affirming exercises, tips for self-advocacy and healing, and further resources for sexual health and wellness.
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Recent Posts

VR Porn Games | Ten Titles You’ll Want to Play

VR porn games top ten, for your pleasure, of course! Check out these not-to-be-missed titles that offer a deeply immersive experience.
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Why Pleasure Matters: Reclaiming Your Right to Feel Good

Sex positivity isn’t just about sex—it’s about embracing joy, desire, and the right to unapologetic pleasure. Here’s why it matters more than ever.
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Phone Chat Lines | The 10 Best Numbers

In this guide, we’ll break down the 10 best phone chat lines of 2025, helping you discover where to dial in for fun, excitement, and meaningful connections.
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Hookup Sites | The 12 Best Choices for 2025

Whether you’re looking for no-strings-attached fun, casual encounters, or something a little more adventurous, the right site can make all the difference.
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Best Cam Sites | A Definitive Guide

Cam sites are a fun and frisky way to get off, but not all sites are created equally. Here are a handful that just might suit your needs.
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Sexy Valentine’s Day Tips

Spice up your Valentine’s Day with kinky gift ideas and exciting activities. From luxury bondage kits and roleplay adventures to intimate photoshoots and sensory play, discover ways to deepen intimacy and explore fantasies. Celebrate love and passion with these creative, unforgettable suggestions.
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Straight Men and the Struggle With Non Monogamy

This post explores why non-monogamy may feel particularly difficult for cis men and how confronting these challenges can lead to personal growth and healthier, more fulfilling relationships.
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