I’m Violet Fawkes, and my mission as a pleasure educator is to support your journey of sexual self-discovery. I create sex-positive resources to help you explore, empower, and enrich your life with practical information, wisdom and self-love.
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Be Curious, Creative & Courageous
There are five themes to help you navigate as you explore this site, and yourself: Being Sexy, Being Kinky, Being Playful, Being Intimate, and Being Whole. Each section is an ever-growing archive of information meant to support, inspire, and inform you.
Being Sexy
What does it mean to be sexy, and why do we care so much? If you want to explore beauty standards, body politics, and living your sexuality authentically, then you’re in the right place!
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Being Kinky
Curious about kink but don’t know where to start? Learn the lingo, get tips for safely navigating a scene, or find a helpful how-to guide. It’s all here for you to explore!
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Being Playful
Want to get serious about the fun side of sex? Dive into the world of sex toys and pleasure products to enrich and expand your definitions of pleasure.
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Being Intimate
No relationship is one-size-fits-all, but this is never more true than when Relationship Anarchy is at play. Learn more about the empowering ways people are expanding their connections and finding new ways to love.
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Being Whole
Isn’t it time you fell in love with yourself? Explore your relationship with yourself and your sexuality with self-affirming exercises, tips for self-advocacy and healing, and further resources for sexual health and wellness.
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Recent Posts
‘Twas the Scene Before Christmas
A play on the classic poem.
Baking can get messy ... especially when bondage and rough sex get involved ...
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The Thirteen Spanks of Christmas
Even the sweetest submissives misbehave from time to time ...
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Kinky Horoscopes for October
“It's one of our greatest human flaws: Arrogance. We look up and dare to assume we know, when the universe is unknowable.”
― Romina Russell
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Sex Machine Dildo from Hankey’s Toys | Review
The Sex Machine will get your thrusters thrusting and your pistons pumping!
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What is Love Bombing?
If it seems too good to be true, it probably is!
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What is DADT?
It's likely not what you think ... Can "don't ask, don't tell" ever be ethical?
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Kinky Horoscopes for September
“We need not feel ashamed of flirting with the zodiac. The zodiac is well worth flirting with.”
― D.H. Lawrence
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Scorpion Sex Grinder from Hankey’s Toys | Review
The Scorpion Sex Grinder from Hankey's Toys is all about getting on, in order to get off!
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Awkward Sex: From Hot to Hilarious
Awkward sex happens to the best of us, but if you can't laugh it off, how good a time were you actually having?! Here are 5 times that my personal sex life went sideways.
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