Explore. Empower. Enrich.

Explore. Empower. Enrich.

Self empowerment through intimate exploration


I’m Violet Fawkes, and my mission as a pleasure educator is to support your journey of sexual self-discovery. I create sex-positive resources to help you explore, empower, and enrich your life with practical information, wisdom and self-love.

What is a Polycule?
What is a Polycule?
Buying Your First Sex Toy
Buying Your First Sex Toy
Exploring Rough & Kinky Sex
Exploring Rough & Kinky Sex
How To Be Ethical FWBs
How To Be Ethical FWBs
I Designed A Dildo
I Designed A Dildo
What Is Sex-Positivity?
What Is Sex-Positivity?
Male Chastity: Everything You Need To Know
Male Chastity: Everything You Need To Know
#AnalAugust: Butt Stuff For Beginners
#AnalAugust: Butt Stuff For Beginners

Be Curious, Creative & Courageous

There are five themes to help you navigate as you explore this site, and yourself: Being Sexy, Being Kinky, Being Playful, Being Intimate, and Being Whole. Each section is an ever-growing archive of information meant to support, inspire, and inform you.

Being Sexy

What does it mean to be sexy, and why do we care so much? If you want to explore beauty standards, body politics, and living your sexuality authentically, then you’re in the right place!
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Being Kinky

Curious about kink but don’t know where to start? Learn the lingo, get tips for safely navigating a scene, or find a helpful how-to guide. It’s all here for you to explore!
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Being Playful

Want to get serious about the fun side of sex? Dive into the world of sex toys and pleasure products to enrich and expand your definitions of pleasure.
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Being Intimate

No relationship is one-size-fits-all, but this is never more true than when Relationship Anarchy is at play. Learn more about the empowering ways people are expanding their connections and finding new ways to love.
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Being Whole

Isn’t it time you fell in love with yourself? Explore your relationship with yourself and your sexuality with self-affirming exercises, tips for self-advocacy and healing, and further resources for sexual health and wellness.
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I Designed A Dildo!

Since I began writing about sex and reviewing sex toys, nearly seven years ago, I have wanted to design a dildo to share with the world. Now, thanks to a collaboration with Freely Toys, my dildo designing dreams have come true!

Named for one of classic Hollywood’s favourite femme fatales, Harlow represents the intersection of sexual liberation and self-love. With curves in all the right places, the size and design are ideal for beginners and toy-savvy folks. It’s also harness compatible and will make pegging an exciting and sensual adventure. Harlow’s perfect proportions make it a great addition to any toy collection, and you can even customise your Harlow with three densities of silicone and over 20 vibrant colours.

Recent Posts

How To: Foot Massages

Experience the profound intimacy of foot massages as we delve into the power of touch, vulnerability, and emotional connection. Discover the art of soulful bonding through soothing foot massage techniques.
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What is a Polycule? | Get to Know the Basics of Polyamory

Whether you’re navigating non-monogamy or you know someone who is, keeping up with all the terminology can feel like a full-time job. So let’s talk about polycules! Not sure what that means? Keep reading!
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How To Be Sex-Positive

The future is sex positive and now is the time to be starting your journey! This article lays out some simple ways that you can shift your thinking and learn how to be sex-positive.
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What is Sex-Positivity?

Recently I was asked what sex-positivity is and why it's so important. The person asking then asserted that they didn't believe sex-positivity could be defined and therefore could not be a viable philosophy or way of life. Challenge accepted!
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IUD Insertion & Recovery

I enthusiastically recommend the IUD but only if you are a good candidate for it. Making fully informed decisions regarding our bodies and health can be overwhelming but it's important to try our best.
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Sevanda Ergo Chastity Cage | Review

The Sevanda Ergo is a quality cage, good looking, and it delivers on all its promises. But when it comes to long term wear, we have hesitations ...
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