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I’m Violet Fawkes, and my mission as a pleasure educator is to support your journey of sexual self-discovery. I create sex-positive resources to help you explore, empower, and enrich your life with practical information, wisdom and self-love.

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Be Curious, Creative & Courageous

There are five themes to help you navigate as you explore this site, and yourself: Being Sexy, Being Kinky, Being Playful, Being Intimate, and Being Whole. Each section is an ever-growing archive of information meant to support, inspire, and inform you.

Being Sexy

What does it mean to be sexy, and why do we care so much? If you want to explore beauty standards, body politics, and living your sexuality authentically, then you’re in the right place!
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Being Kinky

Curious about kink but don’t know where to start? Learn the lingo, get tips for safely navigating a scene, or find a helpful how-to guide. It’s all here for you to explore!
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Being Playful

Want to get serious about the fun side of sex? Dive into the world of sex toys and pleasure products to enrich and expand your definitions of pleasure.
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Being Intimate

No relationship is one-size-fits-all, but this is never more true than when Relationship Anarchy is at play. Learn more about the empowering ways people are expanding their connections and finding new ways to love.
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Being Whole

Isn’t it time you fell in love with yourself? Explore your relationship with yourself and your sexuality with self-affirming exercises, tips for self-advocacy and healing, and further resources for sexual health and wellness.
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Recent Posts

Fetish and Kink in Focus| Pleasure, Power, and Play

Fetish and kink are often misunderstood. Explore their differences, cultural impact, and why neither is inherently problematic or shameful.
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Jealousy: Monogamy’s Messiest Habit

For a very long time, monogamy, the idea that you have one romantic or sexual partner at a time, has been the main model for relationships in Western culture. In this structure, a person is expected to find one partner, stay faithful, and share all emotional and sexual intimacy with them alone. While this system works for many people, it also comes with strong social rules. Let's unpack them!
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Breakups in Polyamory Can Still Break Your Heart

Breakups in polyamory can be uniquely complicated—especially when there are shared communities, overlapping relationships, or pressure to “be okay” because you have other partners. This post offers a kind, grounded look at how to survive (and grow from) a breakup in polyamory, with practical tips, emotional support, and a reminder that your grief is valid.
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Why Do Monogamous People Fear Non-Monogamy So Much?

Monogamous responses to non-monogamy often range from sheer disbelief, to disgust, to fear and defensiveness. Why? Let's talk about it.
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Metamours | Communication, Challenges, and Connection

Metamours are your partner’s other partners. This mini guide explains how to communicate and celebrate this unique connection.
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AI Porn & the Future of Intimacy

What was once the realm of speculative fiction is now a tangible, rapidly evolving industry. What does that mean for the future of intimacy?
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Pap Smears | The Conversation Too Many of Us Avoid

Pap smears might be uncomfortable, but they’re essential for cervical health. Learn why regular screenings matter, what abnormal results really mean, and how to navigate the anxiety that comes with them.
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How to Ask About Non-Monogamy Without Being Rude

Non-monogamy is no great mystery, but asking someone about their personal life can be dicey, no matter which kind of relationship it is. This guide will help you navigate!
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BDSM Dating Sites You Should Try

BDSM dating involves more than just seeking play partners; it's about forming significant connections. Specialized dating sites cater to the kink community, facilitating the search for compatible partners with shared values, whether dominant, submissive, or otherwise.
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