I’m Violet Fawkes, and my mission as a pleasure educator is to support your journey of sexual self-discovery. I create sex-positive resources to help you explore, empower, and enrich your life with practical information, wisdom and self-love.
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There are five themes to help you navigate as you explore this site, and yourself: Being Sexy, Being Kinky, Being Playful, Being Intimate, and Being Whole. Each section is an ever-growing archive of information meant to support, inspire, and inform you.
Being Sexy
What does it mean to be sexy, and why do we care so much? If you want to explore beauty standards, body politics, and living your sexuality authentically, then you’re in the right place!
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Being Kinky
Curious about kink but don’t know where to start? Learn the lingo, get tips for safely navigating a scene, or find a helpful how-to guide. It’s all here for you to explore!
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Being Playful
Want to get serious about the fun side of sex? Dive into the world of sex toys and pleasure products to enrich and expand your definitions of pleasure.
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Being Intimate
No relationship is one-size-fits-all, but this is never more true than when Relationship Anarchy is at play. Learn more about the empowering ways people are expanding their connections and finding new ways to love.
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Being Whole
Isn’t it time you fell in love with yourself? Explore your relationship with yourself and your sexuality with self-affirming exercises, tips for self-advocacy and healing, and further resources for sexual health and wellness.
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Recent Posts
Hysteria: An Historical Lens on Women’s Autonomy
The "hysterical woman" concept has historically pathologized femininity, controlling women's emotions and sexuality.
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Pleasure as Praxis: Why Sex Positivity is a Political Act
By embracing sex positivity and consent, we reclaim autonomy, disrupt capitalism, and advocate for marginalized voices in the pursuit of joy.
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Sexual Communication: Learn to Ask for What You Want
Talking about sex shouldn’t be taboo; it’s a game-changer for intimacy. Speak up, explore desires, and watch your relationships ignite with passion.
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Radical Self-Love: Transform Your Intimacy
Easy, actionable steps to learning to love and embrace your body, and improve the sex and intimacy you enjoy.
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Desire Mapping: A Guide to Naming, Claiming, and Communicating Your Wants
In this guide, we’ll explore simple, encouraging ways to tune into your wants, own them fully, and share them in a way that feels safe and authentic. Your desires are valid. Your voice matters. And you deserve to be heard.
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Best Hookup Sites for Casual Dating
With advancements in matching algorithms, enhanced privacy features, and inclusive options for all orientations and kinks, today’s top hookup dating sites go beyond the basics to create seamless and exciting experiences.
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14 Best Swinger Sites to Find Local Swingers
This guide breaks down the 14 best swinger sites of 2025, highlighting their unique features, user demographics, and membership perks. Looking for a discreet and high-end experience, a budget-friendly community-driven site, or an app with cutting-edge matching technology? This list has you covered.
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9 Best Sugar Momma Websites
Once upon a time, the idea of a “sugar momma” was met with raised eyebrows, whispered speculation, or outright dismissal. But in a world where dating norms are shifting faster than the latest TikTok trend, the conversation around transactional relationships has changed.
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Apps for No Strings Attached Sex
In this guide, we’ve rounded up the 10 Best Dating Apps For Finding Casual Sex, covering their unique features, user experiences, and what makes them stand out.
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