Explore. Empower. Enrich.

Explore. Empower. Enrich.

Self empowerment through intimate exploration

Welcome! I’m Violet Fawkes

I’m a pleasure educator, writer, and advocate for sex-positive self-acceptance.

I create inclusive, affirming resources to help you explore your desires, build lasting confidence, and reconnect with what brings you joy, all on your own terms.

Grounded in self-compassion and self-love, my work supports deeper connection with yourself and more fulfilling relationships with others. You deserve intimacy, expression, and fulfilment that feel true to you.

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      There are five themes to help you navigate as you explore this site, and yourself: Being Sexy, Being Kinky, Being Playful, Being Intimate, and Being Whole. Each section is an ever-growing archive of information meant to support, inspire, and inform you.

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      Being Playful

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      Being Intimate

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      Being Whole

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