Explore. Empower. Enrich.

Explore. Empower. Enrich.

Self empowerment through intimate exploration

Welcome! I’m Violet Fawkes

I’m a pleasure educator, writer, and advocate for sex-positive self-acceptance.

I create inclusive, affirming resources to help you explore your desires, build lasting confidence, and reconnect with what brings you joy, all on your own terms.

Grounded in self-compassion and self-love, my work supports deeper connection with yourself and more fulfilling relationships with others. You deserve intimacy, expression, and fulfilment that feel true to you.

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Be Curious, Creative & Courageous

There are five themes to help you navigate as you explore this site, and yourself: Being Sexy, Being Kinky, Being Playful, Being Intimate, and Being Whole. Each section is an ever-growing archive of information meant to support, inspire, and inform you.

Being Sexy

What does it mean to be sexy, and why do we care so much? If you want to explore beauty standards, body politics, and living your sexuality authentically, then you’re in the right place!
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Being Kinky

Curious about kink but don’t know where to start? Learn the lingo, get tips for safely navigating a scene, or find a helpful how-to guide. It’s all here for you to explore!
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Being Playful

Want to get serious about the fun side of sex? Dive into the world of sex toys and pleasure products to enrich and expand your definitions of pleasure.
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Being Intimate

No relationship is one-size-fits-all, but this is never more true than when Relationship Anarchy is at play. Learn more about the empowering ways people are expanding their connections and finding new ways to love.
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Being Whole

Isn’t it time you fell in love with yourself? Explore your relationship with yourself and your sexuality with self-affirming exercises, tips for self-advocacy and healing, and further resources for sexual health and wellness.
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Recent Posts

Kinky Horoscopes for October

Discover your kinky horoscope for October 2025! Let your star signs guide you through a month of passion, pleasure, and possibility.
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Ready or Not, Locktober Is Coming

Learn what Locktober is, how to prepare for a month in chastity, and where to find the best devices and accessories for the challenge.
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le Wand Deux Review

An honest le Wand Deux Review: features, pros & cons, and my experience with this compact travel-friendly vibe. Find out if it’s worth the hype.
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le Wand Dive Massager Review

Discover my honest LE WAND DIVE Massager review. Come see if this wand massager is the right fit for your collection.
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Summer Bodies, Summer Pleasure

Embracing summer doesn’t have to mean enduring shame or discomfort, it can mean finding new ways to feel good, to feel free, and to feel fully you.
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Vacation Sex: Out Of Office Fun

Discover how to make the most of vacation sex: tips on safer hookups, passion with your partner, and embracing pleasure wherever you go.
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Bisexual Disaster

There’s just something so expansive and exploratory about bisexuality. It feels both subversive, and incredibly wholesome.
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Pathways to Pleasure – Which one’s yours?

Desire is deeply personal, yet often follows familiar patterns. These five pleasure pathways can help you better understand your own.
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