You’ve discovered you have a kink … does that make you kinky?
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Changing the way we think and talk about ourselves is a watershed moment in self development and a big part of ‘doing the work’. Rewriting old scripts by assessing and addressing negative thought patterns, gives us the opportunity to change and improve what we “feed” our sense of self. Whether we like it or not, how we speak to ourselves, and what we allow ourselves to be influenced by, matters. This can be a hard idea to face because we may not even know what it feels like to be kind to ourselves, let alone how to get there.
Raising your kids to be sex positive does not mean that you’re pushing them out into the world too early or that you are promoting them being sexual too soon. Instead, you’re giving them information to protect themselves, make their own decisions when appropriate, and keeping you apprised of where they are in their own journey.
One of the most challenging parts about creating discourse regarding non-monogamy, is how broad a subject it is and how nuanced its details are. Part of that challenge comes from language, the more mainstream it becomes as a topic, the more terminology people get exposed to, but that also leaves more room for misinformation and misinterpretation.
So how, as a monogamous person, would one become aware that non-monogamy may be a viable choice? As with anything this personal and specific, experiences will vary, but there are some commonalities to be aware of and things to think about before you make any big steps.
Non-monogamy might be right for you if…
Valentines don’t have to be cute and pretty … These dark and delicious designs will drop on RedBubble on Jan 30.
Imagine the impact if we all just said no, and didn’t buy-in to the idea that January is simply a magnifying glass for all of our perceived flaws. Imagine if this is the year we learn to love ourselves, and our changes and improvements come from within?
Every once in a while I watch a film that I enjoy aesthetically, that keeps me interested throughout, that is well acted and well cast, yet I still can’t quite like it. This is the sort of mixed feeling I was left with after watching Emerald Fennell’s 2023 film, Saltburn.
Not all queer people are sex-positive, and not all sex-positive people are queer, so how are these philosophies and experiences related?