Pleasure 101

Welcome to Sex 101. Most ‘sexual education’ has failed us. Some of us got the bare minimum information, others got no information at all and had to find out on their own. Even those of us who received a relatively balanced and accurate crash course from educators and/or parents, still only got information about the applicable ‘parts’ and how to avoid conception. Armed with pertinent information like how to put a condom on a banana or the looming threat that for all girls, sex began with pain and later, little hope of pleasure. There was no discussion of the feelings that come with sex, or the complexities of sexual relationships; no talk of pleasure or autonomy, just rules and fear without context. Consider for a moment how different your choices and ideals on sex may have been throughout your life if sexual education had been given more airtime, been made more valid, or spoken about in a plain and constructive way.

The philosophy and purpose of this site is to inspire, entertain, titillate and teach.The whole site, including the Sex 101 section, is a sex-positive space. I have been reading, writing, talking, and working in the NSFW sphere for nearly half a decade and I have learned so much from sex-positive online communities as well as from my own experiences and relationships. My relationship with my body and points of view on sex-positivity have changed over the course of time. I have come to understand that, while we are all experts with our own bodies and experiences, sexual literacy and sexual education is not one-size-fits-all. My aim with the Sex 101 articles that I write is to create a diverse library of information and observation on sex that will educate with facts that go beyond the expected tropes of sex ed.

Thanks for visiting Sex 101!

How to use and enjoy anal beads

In the wide world of sex toys there are some products that are always bestsellers like vibrators and dildos, and others that get overlooked. Anal beads are one of those often overlooked toys but they shouldn’t be!

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How to choose the best vibrator for yourself

We are literally in a golden age of pleasure products! However, there are so many options that it can be tricky to know what you want and how to find it. A great place to start with a true classic, useful for any person, widely available, beloved the world over: the vibrator.

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The Basics of Anal Training (and Why You Should Give It a Try)

The term “anal training” might sound a bit intense or draconian, but it’s actually a really common sexual practice. Some folks train themselves to make anal stimulation and penetration easier and more comfortable, others train a partner as part of a kink dynamic.

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The Subtle Art of Giving a Great Blowjob

Oral, fellatio, nob-gobbling, a BJ, giving head, whatever you call it, blowjobs are a popular sex act almost the world over. For some it’s strictly taboo and for others it’s a casual thing, but however you slice it, if you want to give great head, you must embrace the subtle art of giving a great […]

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5 Myths About Vulvas That Everyone Should Be Aware Of

As part of #Sextember, it’s time we had a look at some of the myths and lies surrounding bodies and sexuality. Centuries of puritanism, misogyny and flawed research have created many misconceptions about the vulva – what it is, how it works and what makes it unique. So, in an effort to tackle this ongoing […]

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Sexting: Add more fantasy to your life

Fantasy is often our earliest and most common form of escapism.  As an adult, fantasy can be a stress relief strategy or a sexual mechanism. Fantasy gives us mental and emotional space not only to ‘experience’ things we don’t have access to or the courage to try, it also makes it possible to to confront […]

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IUD Adventures

The following is my personal experience with IUDs (intrauterine devices) over the past 6 years. Like all birth control, what works well for one person may not for another but informed decisions about your body are key. Please feel free to ask questions in the comments and let’s please keep opinions and advice respectful xo […]

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Rejecting Masturbation Shame. Again.

I’m frustrated. I’m frustrated that I’m blogging about this again, and that I still feel like an outsider for something so personal and unique. More specifically, I’m frustrated by the extensive online energy around women’s masturbation and how one-note that conversation seems to be. I’m frustrated by the shame and inadequacy I feel within the […]

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