Content/Trigger Warning: body image, recreational drug use, anxiety and panic.
Stretch marks and Other Flaws
How does one learn to love their body? How do I go about the process of actually seeing my body as it is, instead of through squinted eyes, or through the lens of others’ hurtful, flippant, presumptuous gaze? How do I do this, and where do I begin?
Getting my sexy back
I struggle with body image. I am forever careening hopelessly along the spectrum of self-appraisal, somewhere between total bridge troll and absolute sex goddess. I have not been feeling sexy lately, but I think I am finally getting my sexy back?
Multi dimensional, a sexual intellectual
I’m done waiting for the world to change to see that I am beautiful, because beautiful is only one thing that I am. Multi dimensional, a sexual intellectual, I’m brimming with reasons to be loved. And I am. And I do. What else could possibly matter?
I’m not in love with my body. Not yet.
{CONTENT WARNING: weight, body image, bulimia, self esteem}
Lewds, Love and Lust
I had a beautiful moment of self love today. They are fairly rare, to be honest. It’s not often that I really feel love for my body. I try to be appreciative of it’s utility but I am mostly ambivalent about its beauty. I don’t find my body repulsive to look at or unpleasant to…
Violet in the Raw
“It takes courage to push yourself to places you have never been before… to test yout limits… to break through barriers.
In Praise of Fat Pussy
Content Warning: discussion on body weight, body image, body modification, the use of the terms ‘fat’, fatphobia and fat fetishization.
H is for Body Hair (Don’t Care!)
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Bedroom-Only Shoes
I fucking love heels, I have always found them sexy, but I hate how they feel on my feet. I hate walking in them, I hate the pinching and the squishing, I hate that they are so awful for the body and that they are wielded as a measure of control when it comes to…
Not Bad For A Boiled Potato
Isn’t it interesting how fluid desire and attraction can be? It is for me, and no example is more clear than the shifts that occur in how I perceive my own body. Sometimes I feel like a complete sex goddess, replete with bewitching beauty and grace. Other times I feel like a boiled potato. There…
A Sinking Ship
Content Warning: weight, weight loss, body image It may seem like a small thing, but it took a lot to not blur out the stretchmarks that you can see on my breasts in this picture. I’ve had stretchmarks on my stomach and sides since the onset of puberty (about 8-9 years old, I got…
Learning To See Me
My body is changing. I am changing my body. It’s slow progress, but the transformation is real. I do not have an end goal, I am not measuring and counting my process or results. I do not believe that I will ever be done, now that the change is in motion, because my views and…
#BoobDay – Love Yourself First
TGIFriday, mothercluckers! I hope you have the hottest, horniest, squirtiest, spurtiest, ooeyest-gooeyest, most toe-curlingly delicious weekend full of whatever it is that gets your rocks off. Finish the wine, order the dessert, stay up, sleep in, just do it, say yes and live and love and enjoy yourself. You deserve it. Love, Violet xx …
Meet Yourself Where You Are
I’ve received some very cruel feedback about my body in the last two weeks, all anonymous, all online. At first I was mystified that such cold words didn’t affect me more; there certainly was a time when I would have been utterly devastated. What these comments afforded me was the opportunity to look at my…
#BoobDay – Soft is Strong
Be like water, which is fluid and soft and yielding. In time, water will overcome rock which is rigid and hard. What is soft is strong.