“It takes courage to push yourself to places you have never been before… to test yout limits… to break through barriers.
In Praise of Fat Pussy
Content Warning: discussion on body weight, body image, body modification, the use of the terms ‘fat’, fatphobia and fat fetishization.
H is for Body Hair (Don’t Care!)
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Bedroom-Only Shoes
I fucking love heels, I have always found them sexy, but I hate how they feel on my feet. I hate walking in them, I hate the pinching and the squishing, I hate that they are so awful for the body and that they are wielded as a measure of control when it comes to…
Not Bad For A Boiled Potato
Isn’t it interesting how fluid desire and attraction can be? It is for me, and no example is more clear than the shifts that occur in how I perceive my own body. Sometimes I feel like a complete sex goddess, replete with bewitching beauty and grace. Other times I feel like a boiled potato. There…
A Sinking Ship
Content Warning: weight, weight loss, body image It may seem like a small thing, but it took a lot to not blur out the stretchmarks that you can see on my breasts in this picture. I’ve had stretchmarks on my stomach and sides since the onset of puberty (about 8-9 years old, I got…
Learning To See Me
My body is changing. I am changing my body. It’s slow progress, but the transformation is real. I do not have an end goal, I am not measuring and counting my process or results. I do not believe that I will ever be done, now that the change is in motion, because my views and…
#BoobDay – Love Yourself First
TGIFriday, mothercluckers! I hope you have the hottest, horniest, squirtiest, spurtiest, ooeyest-gooeyest, most toe-curlingly delicious weekend full of whatever it is that gets your rocks off. Finish the wine, order the dessert, stay up, sleep in, just do it, say yes and live and love and enjoy yourself. You deserve it. Love, Violet xx …
Meet Yourself Where You Are
I’ve received some very cruel feedback about my body in the last two weeks, all anonymous, all online. At first I was mystified that such cold words didn’t affect me more; there certainly was a time when I would have been utterly devastated. What these comments afforded me was the opportunity to look at my…
#BoobDay – Soft is Strong
Be like water, which is fluid and soft and yielding. In time, water will overcome rock which is rigid and hard. What is soft is strong.
Maybe Tomorrow
It’s been a hard week. The kind where you just feel … off. I’ve not felt very sexy or in touch with my body and my new tripod/selfie stick has an absurdly steep learning curve, or maybe it’s just that it’s one of those weeks. I’m keeping my head above water but I’m struggling to…
#BoobDay – Chain of Fools
Another one bites the dust. You’d think somehow I’d learn but nah, that would be too easy! Luckily Aretha will never let me down. Happy weekend, everyone; we’ve earned it. One of these mornings The chain is gonna break But up until the day I’m gonna take all I can take, oh hey Chain,…
Fabulous in Fishnets
Part of the impetus to start Lingerie Is For Everyone was to remind myself that even though I can be quite cruel to my body in both word and deed, it is still beautiful and worthy and deserving of decoration. Lingerie is just that for me: a way to celebrate and decorate my body to…
Words Hurt
Trigger/Content Warning: child abuse, verbal abuse, eating disorders, body dysmorphia I’d like to thank all of you who commented and tweeted kind and healing words in response to my post the other day about my anxiety about doctor visits and body autonomy. It was a hard post to write and share and it’s been interesting…
Why I’ll Never Have A Medical Fetish
I had an appointment yesterday with a new doctor. No cause for alarm, just establishing a connection; we moved last spring and it was time to check that off the ever present to-do list. If you follow me on Twitter you may have seen my tweet seeking good vibes and comforting thoughts because the prospect…
#BoobDay – Velvet Daydreams
Ooops, I almost forgot it’s Boob Day! Ah, the challenges of getting back into routines, post-Holidays. I’m having a calm, quiet Friday. Lots of writing, which in this case means lots of fantasy. Being snuggled into the couch with a velvety throw blanket and the fireplace crackling makes it easy to slip into the euphoria…