I love a soft cock. I love the look of them, I love the feel of them in my hand and mouth, I love the way they slump and wrinkle. I’d go so far as to say I like them just as well as I like them hard. Maybe more.

flaccid – adjective (of part of the body): soft and hanging loosely or limply, especially so as to look or feel unpleasant.

The appeal of the flaccid member is two-fold for me: I find them aesthetically pleasing and pleasingly vulnerable. Erections are a penis at it’s most grand, it’s ultimate and final form. But a soft cock is not only full of potential, it’s the most humble and honest version of any willy. The vulnerability of it, and the vulnerability of sharing it, feels more intimate than another dime-a-dozen-boner. As much as erections are a sleek, perfect example of form following function, they’re a bit ostentatious. If, in a group of flaccid cocks one of them got erect, would that one not look like a bit of a show off? It’s a bit ‘pick me’, isn’t it? The soft cocks would be saying, “There goes Kyle, always has to be the centre of attention.”

A soft cock, on the other hand, has nothing to prove. It’s just chilling and living its best life, it’s not stressed out and engorged, demanding attention. It’s got a quiet confidence to it, a humility and charisma that says “If you can’t love me at my softest, you don’t deserve me at my hardest.” A soft cock knows its worth. It doesn’t mean to  aggressively morph into a heat-seeking missile. The soft cock is beholden to the brain and when the brain says it’s Go Time, the flaccid cock must do a Bruce Banner to Hulk-type transformation. But erections get the job done, so we forgive them their urgency and impertinence. We overlook their dramatics and their frequent mess. They are the heroes, after all;  basking in their fleeting glory before reverting to their modest, unassertive, soft selves.

I don’t for a moment wish to discredit the majestic utility of erections, but I do wish that the unassuming flaccid cock got more recognition. In a world where the goal of harder/better/faster/stronger applies to nearly everything, I think it’s important to acknowledge the unsung beauty and poignancy of a soft cock. Just as we could not appreciate the stars without the darkness, the soft begets the hard, so let’s embrace it! Let’s make an effort to show  some love to the limp, and remind the cock-owners we know and love that soft is sexy.

 

 


Violet Fawkes

Violet Fawkes (she/her) is a freelance writer and sex blogger focusing on pleasure education, erotic fiction, and the intersection of identity, kink and mental health.