They may not feel like much, but a strapon blow job is a joy to behold. As the receiver, they are a delight and as the giver there are few downsides. Read on for my top 5 reasons to love strapon blowjobs.

5 Reasons to Love Strap On Blowjobs

5 Reasons to Love Strapon Blowjobs

Strapons don’t seem to get a lot of respect, they seem a bit misunderstood. For many, strapons are destined to always come up short against ‘real’ cocks. Believe me, a strapon cock feels absolutely real when it’s being pushed into the back of your throat, so lets not split hairs re: authenticity. Personally, I love strapon BJs. I think they are so hot and absolutely one of the sexiest versions of cock-sucking. They have a few pros and very few cons, in my opinion, so without further ado, let me give you 5 reasons to love strapon blowjobs.

5 Reasons to Love Strap-On Blowjobs

1. Equal opportunity sucking (and fucking)

No dick? No problem. Strapons really are the great equalizer of sex toys. We live in a toxic, mega-phallocentric culture where cock is still considered king. Strap-ons help take all of that dick-first energy down a notch and level the playing field, making cock play accessible to everyone. Strap-ons can be an important extension (pun intended) of gender expression for people of all gender identities and sexualities. Strap-ons aren’t just for FemDoms and lesbians as we have been led to believe! 

You can wear a strapon if: 

  • you don’t have a penis and want to penetrate a consenting partner
  • you already have a penis (hello, DP!) 
  • you like the look of them
  • they make you feel some kind of way
  • you want to experience being the ‘penetrator’ instead of the ‘penetratee’
  • you want to watch your partner suck it  
  • you want to, no reason required

5 reasons to love strap-on blowjobs

2. No messy finish

A traditional flesh and blood blowie often has a messy finish, and comes with the hotly debated spit v. swallow issue. Some people would argue that ejaculation is the highlight of dick-sucking, but I can personally go either way. Swallowing semen is not always pleasant or safe and spitting it out isn’t much safer, and is generally messy and over-rated. Having it spaffed all over your face or other body part isn’t for everyone either.  Strapon blowjobs mitigate all of that. They provide a lasting erection that needs no release and because there’s no ‘finish line’,  the focus isn’t just on the destination, meaning you can both enjoy the journey.

3. You’ll love the view

Ask anyone who has received a decent blow job and they will inevitably tell you that it felt amazing and was also incredible to watch.

There is a misleading and out of date rumour/trope that has told us for decades that men are more easily visually stimulated when  it comes to sex, and that most men need a visual element to be fully aroused. Conversely, it has been said that women are not visual and instead require mental or emotional stimuli. It’s hard to imagine, with what we now know about the science of sex, that anyone would still believe these simplifications, yet they remain a part of discourse. These concepts perpetuate the “(straight) male gaze” and further the myths that pleasure and desire are biologically determined, both of which hold all of us back from a more evolved and sex positive culture and gender equality.   

There are findings from many studies that indicate that the visual appeal of sex and sex acts is not at all limited to the male sex. In fact, there’s a lot of scientifically valid evidence that people of all gender identities and biologies like/want/need a visual element. 

“… based on the measurements so far that we collected consistently, the meta-analysis doesn’t indicate differences with respect to biological sex.”

Regardless of the data, looking down as someone diligently works at pleasing and impressing you with their mouth is a glorious sight. Add to that, the cultural and social associations between cocks and power, and you have a potent cocktail of oral and visual stimuli that lends itself to all sorts of fantasy, role-play, power dynamics and gender exploration, to name a few. All thanks to the strapon!

4. Size is no object

Strapons are versatile when it comes to size: so long as the dildo has a harness compatible base and your harness’s O-ring accomodates it, the world is your oyster. This means that you really can gag a willing supplicant with your colossal cock, or watch them struggle to get their lips around it while you remind them of their teeth (as if you can feel them!). Oral strapon play can get totally creative and kinky, if you want it to, and it’s a fun way to branch out and switch things up a bit. 

5. Fantasy fuel

Strapon fantasy play doesn’t have to center around gender. Using strapons with non-phallic or unusual dildos can help you bring all kinds of fantasies to life. Even if adding a strapon cock/appendage isn’t the focal point of your fantasy play, it’s another way to enrich the experience, or try out something new or unexplored. Whether it’s inter-species or intergalactic, with the right dildo, penetrating an eager mouth-hole can get really creative, really quickly.  

Strapons and strapon blowjobs are super hot and I won’t be convinced otherwise, but I know they aren’t for everyone. Even if you’re only mildly curious, harnesses are inexpensive and many come as starter kits with slim, “manageable” dildos, making them easy to try without making a serious investment. You may be surprised at how interesting and exciting it can be. As always, play sexy and play safe! 

These have been my top 5 reasons to love strapon blowjobs but I’m curious – what do you think of them? Do you love sucking a faux phallus or watching it pass the lips of your lover? Share with the rest of us in the comments below!

Looking for more information and different perspectives on strapon sex and strapon blowjobs? Great! Check out these articles from reliable, sex-positive sources:

History of Strapon Sex by Godemiche

On Opening Doors, and Stories Written in Rough Sex and Leather by Betty Butch

Strapping on a realistic cock gave me a surge of confidence. Who knew? by Love is a Fetish

Over the rainbow by Vanilla Free Sex

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Violet

Violet Fawkes (she/her) is a freelance writer and sex blogger focusing on pleasure education, erotic fiction, and the intersection of identity, kink and mental health.