I have been sitting on this post for a couple weeks now, trying to find my words. I have such mixed feelings about posting a favourites list for the end of the year, despite having been included on several published by other bloggers. I am so grateful for their mentions and kind words. I don’t begrudge the lists as a concept, but I do feel intense anxiety about leaving people out, so I’m taking a different tack.

This post is for all the bloggers who aren’t on a list, and who didn’t get a shout out. This is for the blogs that fly under the radar because self promotion is hard, and blogging is hard, and some days we just can’t. This one’s for the blogs that have had an off year, or took a sabbatical, or rearranged their priorities. This post is for the blogs that we are yet to find, the ones that are just a sparkle in a baby blogger’s eye. The ones that have been silent but just might come back, and to the blogs that have said all they needed to say.

This community of NSFW bloggers is among my very favourite groups of comrades and you each play a part in an era of my life that I am very proud of and happy with. I’m perpetually in awe and delight that these are my friends and colleagues and the art that you produce, and the pride that you take in your work, inspires me every single day.

So, if you are a blogger who feels small or unseen in the flurry of kudos that snows down as the year comes to a close, please keep at it. Invest in yourself where you can, be it with money, time or resources. Keep sharing, keep learning, keep growing with your work and don’t hesitate to lean into the community. Join in on the memes and ask for help or feedback if you need it. We all benefit from supporting each other and lifting each other up and I promise you that the bloggers who run established blogs will help if they can – many of them have helped me – and I do what I can to help others too. Even if your blog is new or small or quiet, you are a part of the community. There’s room for all of us, and moreover, there’s room for all of us to succeed.

Thank you for making 2019 a great blogging year, and a wonderful year to be a part of this movement. I tip my cap, I raise my glass, and to all of you, I say: let’s make 2020 a year to remember!

Violet Fawkes

Violet Fawkes (she/her) is a freelance writer and sex blogger focusing on pleasure education, erotic fiction, and the intersection of identity, kink and mental health.