“Each of us is born with a box of matches inside us but we can’t strike them all by ourselves”
― Laura Esquivel, Like Water for Chocolate

This little meme of mine, nay, ours, makes me happy. I don’t know why I don’t say that more often, more freely, but it is honestly a joy. That joy is owed in large part to the friendship and support, but also to the inspiration and courage to be ourselves. The freedom and encouragement to be who we are and express our individuality is, to my mind, an essential part of being a happy, healthy, human. We all need it, in small ways or big, we all need to assert that we are who we are.

We live in a world of damned if you do and damned if you don’t when it comes to individuality. It’s as if the rules of society state: “Be yourself! Be genuine! Be real. But not too real. Especially not is it’s messy or inconvenient or raw. Don’t express anything that doesn’t fit into the pre-existing templates. Be real, just a mediocre, comfortable, quiet version of who you are. And be glad we let you have that!”

This week’s highlight reel is on three posts. While ALL of the pics and posts celebrate individuality these three are the ones that spoke to me loudest, that celebrate who they are in a way that struck me, somehow. Click on the images to read the original posts.

Nipple Piercing Experience- a close up on littlegems nipple bar slightly covered by the silk kimono

an image for me in french knickers for a post called apologies

If you haven’t scrolled through this week’s roster of posts, make sure you do so! As always, please like/share/comment and if you’re in the giving spirit and their blog has the button, show your appreciation by buying them a coffee. 97.8%* of bloggers are fuelled by coffee,  that’s just science**!

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* completely fictitious data
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Violet Fawkes

Violet Fawkes (she/her) is a freelance writer and sex blogger focusing on pleasure education, erotic fiction, and the intersection of identity, kink and mental health.