Welcome to the re-introduction of Write Big Sexy Words: a new monthly feature on Love, Violet. I started #WBSW last year but quickly ran out of resources to do it. Things have changed a bit and in my 2020 blog planning, I realized that I really missed this feature and that it was interesting and valuable to me that I just had to bring it back. Despite being a make-work-project, I love doing it!

Beginning in January, on the first day of the month, I’ll be posting some big, smart, sexy words and definitions that we can all enjoy. If you’re a word nerd like I am, that alone will be fun, but if you’re also looking to expand your repertoire and use more robust, yet sensual and descriptive, language in your erotic writing, this may be the feature for you! Not all the words will be inherently sexy, but it’s always sexy to expand your vocabulary! I am excited to be reading more smutty, down and dirty fiction than ever before in my life, and I’m even more excited that there’s so much quality writing to be found and so many amazing memes and outlets by-bloggers-for-bloggers, to express titillating themes and ideas.

My hope is that Write Big Sexy Words adds to the writing and reading experience in the erotica community.

Does Size Really Matter?
Yes and no. Solid writing should be clear and oftentimes clear means simple. That, however, doesn’t mean that the vocabulary of a piece of writing needs to be easy to be good. Likewise, studding an article or story with out-of-place and abstract terms can be really distracting to readers.

Striking a Balance
Use an authentic voice. If it’s not your style to describe “… her shiny red lips” as “… her lustrous vermilion pout” then you, as the author, need to make that choice. Sometimes less is more, but if you are going to mention those lips more than once, peppering in more robust synonyms can elevate your description and keep the flow smooth without being repetitive.

Purple Prose
It’s true, there is such a thing as too much of a good thing. Overly descriptive prose, sometimes called Purple Prose, is a pitfall of using highly dynamic words, especially adjectives.

In literary criticism, purple prose is prose text that is so extravagant, ornate, or flowery as to break the flow and draw excessive attention to itself. Purple prose is characterized by the excessive use of adjectives, adverbs, and metaphors. When it is limited to certain passages, they may be termed purple patches or purple passages, standing out from the rest of the work.

Purple Prose has its place, and is a style all its own. When used judiciously it can highlight a moment, especially in erotic writing. When used too freely and without due consideration, it can be exhausting!

I hope you’ll join in! There’s a nifty countdown timer in the sidebar and the first link-up post with 9 BIG SEXY WORDS will go out January 1, be sure to subscribe by email (in the sidebar) so you never miss a post!

In the meantime, feel free to visit the #WBSW Archives:

From the WBSW Archives – Colour Me Sexy
From the WBSW Archives – Feeling Words
From the WBSW Archives: Character Terms


From the WBSW Archives: Sexy Verbs

Violet Fawkes

Violet Fawkes (she/her) is a freelance writer and sex blogger focusing on pleasure education, erotic fiction, and the intersection of identity, kink and mental health.