I love words.
Words hold so much magic and power, whether written or spoken, and even though the old adage is “actions speak louder than words” nothing gets to me like words do. When considering how I prefer feedback, what my Blogger Love Language is, the answer is simple: just tell me.
All Words, All The Time
If you want to give me feedback on my words, use your own. When it comes to Love Languages, my real-world love language is Words of Affirmation, and the same goes for my blog. Tell me what you think, tell me how my work makes you feel. If a comment or compliment is genuine and well-meaning, I don’t have any limitations on how I like praise expressed, no words that I prefer, just tell me how my art affects you. It’s lovely to know that you enjoyed it or that it made you think or you understand my point of view.
Words of Affirmation, Not Defamation
A few weeks ago I deleted my CuriousCat account because the anonymity it provided gave some trolls license to eviscerate me with criticism, accusations and personal attacks on my body, relationships, validity in the kink community and my writing. It was almost enough to make me delete my blog. Almost. The lasting effects have made me pull back, interact less, avoid personal posts for the most part, and I can’t even think about taking provocative photos. So as much as I love words, they can be very painful when they are hurled with cruelty and I am wary of opening myself up to such assaults again. I will say this, in terms of feedback: words can hurt as much as they heal, and unkind words and unsolicited negative opinions are not welcome here. Constructive criticism and suggestions are fine, not everyone will like my work or think I’m very good at it. Having a background in visual art, I am accustomed to receiving feedback and critique on the things that I create and if the criticism is respectful, I am generally glad to receive it.
Love and Appreciation
I am often overwhelmed by the kindness and sheer numbers of comments I get and I appreciate every one of them. I suppose I am most appreciative when I can understand why something I have created resonates with someone or why my style works for them. It is meaningful to me to know that my ideas can inspire or excite, and touching someone through my words is incredibly fulfilling, so never hold back!
Nothing says “I like your work” like spending your hard earned money for it. I am lucky enough to have a slow but steady stream of clients in the NSFW creative community and I am incredibly grateful for the collaboration and support. If you’re in the market for a bespoke ‘something’, my creative services include, but aren’t limited to:
- freelance writing (especially within the NSFW/sex/relationships sphere)
- custom erotica
- proof reading/editing
- custom avatars
- blog banners
- meme badges
Ways to Connect with Me
- Subscribe (in the sidebar on the right)
- Use my Contact Form for commission requests, paid opportunities or to have me review your product
- Leave respectful comments on posts and images
- Interact with me on Twitter
- Follow me on Instagram
- Support me on Patreon
- Show me how much you love me via PayPal (email@example.com)
Thank You and Goodnight
Thanks for reading along and allowing me to indulge in the feedback loop and share what’s most validating and what I struggle with. I’m awfully glad for all the love, support, and feedback I do get and I’m forever endeavouring to give more back to the community, because I feel I owe so much to all of you. It’s lovely company we keep and I’m proud to know each one of you. Thank you for your continued affirmation and for respecting and speaking my Blogger Love Language with me.