September always seems to have that “back to school” energy – time to come back to reality and let the whimsy of summer fade into memory. It’s Virgo Season so it’s no surprise we’re all shining our shoes and feeling motivated to get ourselves together. This is a great time to take stock of things, tidy up, get organized (think: tackling that unkempt drawer of sex toys or giving a good once-over to your play space).Later in the month as we move into Libra, the stability of Virgo season gives way to balance making for a mostly calm and productive month no matter your sign. From a celestial point of view, the sky is highly active right now with lots of planetary action that we can lean into and capitalize on to get shit done. All signs will feel a boost right now, what you do with that and how you implement these opportunities is up to you.

The Rolling Stones crooned, “You can’t always get what you want, but if you try sometimes, you just might find, you get what you need.”. Let this be your reminder, Aries, that as impulsive and head strong as you are, you must leave some things up to fate. Your patience will be tested this month but your frustrations will be worth the wait. Sex and kink may feel a bit tepid right now, but there’s lots to be gained by settling into a groove and getting comfortable. If that sounds smothering, try to see the benefits of consistency and clarity.

To-Do: Stop pushing and enjoy the ride. If you have room in your kink and sex life to explore giving up some control, this may be a time to stay curious about taking a back seat or experiencing something new and daring.

Affirmation: A rhythm is not the same as a rut.

You are a creature of comfort and the first half of the month is going to be downright cozy for you. You’re on top of your game and attracting the cream of the crop with your charm and warmth, feeling confident and maybe even feeling inspired to share more of yourself, but on your terms. You may feel a bit vulnerable later in the month, but there is power in revealing more of yourself in relationships and plumbing the depths with the people you are closest to. Your confidence may have you indulging in the finer things (as if you needed an excuse) but beware of overspending and the perception that you just throw money at your problems.

To Do: Don’t resist the desire to connect and communicate, you will be surprised by how ready others are to hear more from you.

Affirmation: My emotional depth is an asset, not a liability.

If you find yourself feeling a bit indecisive, don’t panic. It’s true that usually making a choice and executing on it is easy for you but you may find that you’re feeling less inclined to pick a path and run with it. This will pass and the better you take care of your own needs, the faster you will feel your passion come back. Are you tired, Gemini? This is your reminder that taking “me-time” is allowed, and encouraged. Virgo season will be a bit tumultuous but avoid making rash decisions, stay the course and learn all you can along the way.

To Do: Get down with yourself – mindful masturbation is a powerful tool for connecting with your body and grounding yourself if things feel a bit wobbly.

Affirmation: Self care isn’t selfish.

August had you clamoring to get out of your shell but September may make that crispy armor more desirable than ever. Once you’re alone in your safe space you will also be alone with your thoughts and that is rarely a comfortable thing for you. By the end of the month, you’ll have the balance sorted out, but between now and then, stay self aware of how you respond to people. Remember that you can’t control what they think of you. You might not be feeling super sexy as we roll into September but the end of the month will have you feeling more socially and sexually savvy. Be patient and kind to yourself until then.

To-Do: leave yourself love notes on the bathroom mirror

Affirmation: I gotta be me! The people who mind don’t matter and the people who matter don’t mind.

It can be easy to get swept up into the glitz and glam of Leo life where every event feels like it has a red carpet just for you but you’re on a trajectory of focus and inner growth that will see you through most of the rest of the year. On the surface this may feel like you are having less fun, but don’t be too quick to dismiss this period of self examination and growth simply because it feels dull. Remember: you don’t need a Gatsby-level orgy to assert yourself as the belle of the ball, you’re hot stuff no matter the venue.

To-Do: listen more than you speak, show the people you care about why you care about them by reflecting their strengths back to them

Affirmation: I can be sensible without being boring.


You’re used to being the dependable pragmatist of the group, and your tidy and restrained interpersonal skills mean you are often relegated as the go-to guru when your friends or lovers need an expert opinion. As uncomfortable as it is, you may find that you are suddenly the one seeking guidance and support. This is not a failing, this is growth. Sex and romance are areas that will feel comfy and easy through September but that’s not an excuse to become complacent. You get what you give so don’t be afraid to dive right in and enjoy yourself.

To-Do: Trust yourself and stop to not just smell the roses, pick yourself a bouquet.

Affirmation: I am safe to ask for the help that I need


You may be feeling a bit more easy-breezy-beautiful than normal, which is saying a lot. You’re particularly magnetic this September as we move through the self assured energies of Virgo and nearer your season. If you’re in the market for a sexy new connection, this is the time to put yourself out there, but remember that pride cometh before a fall; you’re appealing, Libra, but you’re not perfect. Don’t leave your crush on read and if you’re thinking of ghosting someone, have the decency to speak your truth and just tell them how you feel.

To Do: Stay humble. Modesty can be a bit hard for you sometimes, but humility and humanity will help you attract and keep the connections you want and need.

Affirmation: Harmony is worth seeking.

Ahhh, Scorpio. Dark, regal and enigmatic, you are deeply desired by many but the fear of your sting keeps people at arms length. It is important to remember that when someone does step within your personal space bubble it’s because they have decided to trust you, therefore you should at least consider trusting them. Don’t bite the hand that feeds you (or pets you or gets you off). Your bark always comes with a bite, use it judiciously.

To Do: Trust yourself in all things because your wisdom is legit especially when it comes to body autonomy, consent and boundaries.

Affirmation: I am in control of the expression of my feelings.



And just like that, things are looking up! If you practiced the self care you so desperately needed in August, you’re primed for an easy and successful September. If you pushed through and didn’t take the time to be good to yourself you will undoubtedly be feeling a bit spent. Luckily, things are more or less agreeable in your world and the pace of things is manageable. That spotlight that you have a love/hate relationship with will be shining on you quite brightly in the coming months, so find your inner star and let it shine.

To Do: Dust off your dancing shoes and take the night off, if you end up on the stripper pole, so be it!

Affirmation: I rise to any occasion with grace and strength.


It’s time to reap what you have sown, and it is quite a harvest! Your diligent and focused nature affords you times of plenty like almost no other and this is one of those times. Don’t spend your energy this month trying to acquire more of what you want and deserve, focus on what you have. Abundance comes in many forms and clarity is one of them. Don’t get lost in the revelry and forget to take off your rose coloured glasses from time to time to stay grounded in the here and now (your favourite place to be).

To Do: Say yes to invitations and opportunities, especially if they are social or romantic. Go to the party/munch/event, who knows who you might meet!

Affirmation: I work hard and I deserve to enjoy myself when the opportunity presents itself.

If you’re feeling some seismic changes within yourself, that’s just your uncanny sense of perception showing you what it’s capable of. The further message here is that you are more capable than you think. Aquarius, it’s important right now to allow yourself to be flexible and mutable and take the learning you’re shown at face value. It may not seem important now but the lessons that are coming require some knowledge to interpret them and lay the ground work for some important development and change. A fresh start? You betcha.

To Do: Get a change of scenery in order to better appreciate your usual view.

Affirmation: An Aquarious in motion tends to stay in motion.


Much like your Aquarian pals, things are feeling fresh and your energy is renewed. Unlike Aquarius though, you aren’t anticipating big lessons because you have already learned them, and there’s nothing a Pisces hates more than missing the point and feeling sheepish. Keep your eyes and heart open, indulge yourself in the things that make you feel good. You can jet your hair down a bit, push your boundaries. Surround yourself with people who make you laugh and who help you feel good about yourself. If you look in the mirror and think “Damn, I look good.” you’re right. You do. That’s what believing in yourself looks like.

To Do: Let your calendar fill up with events and people, embrace being a hot commodity while it lasts.

Affirmation: I am a valuable part of my community and I have so much to give.


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Violet Fawkes

Violet Fawkes (she/her) is a freelance writer and sex blogger focusing on pleasure education, erotic fiction, and the intersection of identity, kink and mental health.